She Mail: Friends Debate On Making Big Deal Out Of Birthdays
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Here’s what our SheMailers are asking this morning:
I’ve slept in the same bed as my husband for the whole three years that we’ve been married and have never considered any other arrangement. But, lately, David has been falling asleep in the guest room and says that he actually sleeps better when he sleeps by himself. I’m very hurt by this and can’t imagine us sleeping separately for the rest of our marriage.
He says he loves me a ton, but I’m worried that he doesn’t love me as much as he thinks he does if he doesn’t want to sleep next to me. Does anyone else have this arrangement with their partner? Do they like it or has it ruined their marriage?”
My girlfriend Jen is turning 29 next month and is already making a big deal about what I’m planning for her and even asking if she should take days off of work!
I wasn’t planning on doing anything extravagant because we go through this every year and I don’t think birthdays are EVER a big deal. (We all but ignore mine and that’s just fine with me).
I figured I’d do something really nice for her 30th birthday, but why does she expect to get the royal treatment every single year when she’s done nothing more than simply stay alive… just like the rest of us?
Am I being too cynical or can I politely ask her to cut the birthday crap out?”
“HEY JULIE & TONY!
Brad and I have been dating for two months and it’s almost unheard of for him to actually invite me anywhere. I feel like whenever we end up hanging out, it’s because I’ve planned it or basically invited myself – and I hate that feeling.
Do you think Brad has just gotten used to me planning things or being available whenever he wants me? Or do you think I’m just an afterthought to him, while he’s been a priority to me? Help!”
I appreciate that he doesn’t mind me gaining weight but I don’t appreciate him encouraging me to get fat on purpose. How do I confront him about this and do you think I’ll lose him if I take the weight off?”
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