She Mail: Office Bully Creating Hostile Workplace For Woman
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I work in a nursing home. I love the residents & most of the staff but one person in particular is nothing less than a bully. She is “above me” but she is not my boss and she is so mean to me! A few weeks ago, she told me that if she my, she would’ve fired my white BLEEP long ago. She also said that she thinks I got my job because of the color of my skin. She has told me numerous times that I am going to hell because I am Jewish. I have talked to my boss, nothing has changed, I have gone up the chain as far as I can go, and nothing has changed. I am not sure what to do with her anymore! Yes, I could quit and go look for a new job but I love where I am. I don’t want to leave just because of one bad person. Things are getting worse though. She now refuses to say my name and simply calls me “social worker.” What should I do?
Fighting Off the Wooly Bully
Dear Fighting Off the Wooly Bully,
First let me say how sorry I am that you’ve been put through this. That sounds simply AWFUL. We discussed this on the air and got some great advice from listeners. One woman contacted a Labor Law Attorney who gave her a free consultation. Even better, he gave her his card & asked her employer to contact him but the problem MAGICALLY resolved on its own. Another listener said that she contacted the EEOC when she went through a similar situation. One caller even suggested buying a Spy Pen to record your co-worker when she says ugly things to you!
I have a friend in HR and this is what she said: I would advise her to follow her company’s policy for reporting discrimination and harassment. If there is no formal company policy, she may want to try to speak with her supervisor and request a meeting with all three of them to try to resolve this issue together.
The main thing to remember is that there are laws in place to PROTECT you from working in a hostile environment. Your employer simply needs to be reminded of this, so take the proper channels to make sure they are. Hope that helps!
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