She Mail: Woman Has Doubts About Loving Her Husband
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I have been married for 7 years and we have two kids. I love my husband and he is a good man. He is a also great father but I don’t know if I have ever been “in love” with him. To be completely honest, I still believe the “one” is out there. And I wonder if I will ever feel complete if I don’t find out. Should I let my husband go, knowing I only have feelings of friendship for him? Or should I accept my fate and stay in a loveless relationship?
Please help because I’m really struggling with this.
Scratching that 7-Year-Itch
Dear Scratching that 7-Year-Itch,
The room was unanimous that you should not leave your husband right now. Your relationship has 2 things working against it: 7 years and 2 young children. People joke about the 7-Year-Itch but there is something to it. You’ve been together just long enough for things to get stale and couples usually have young children at this point. It’s hard to keep things in perspective when you’re up all night with babies or chasing kids around. It’s very common for couples to lose touch with each other at this point, but it doesn’t mean you won’t find each other again. Take the next year or 2 to focus on reconnecting. Have some date nights or weekends alone and don’t expect the sparks to fly immediately. It takes a while find that happy place again. If you find yourself in the same position a few years from now, when the kids are older and you’ve given everything you can to your relationship, then it might be time to consider the next step. Good luck!
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