She Mail: Mom Seeks Support For Strapping Wayward Toddler In Harness
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I have a 20 month old that loves to explore. In other words, he likes to run away from me. After 2 very anxious shopping ventures this week, I told my husband I want to buy a child harness. My husband thinks it’s borderline child abuse to put a leash on the kid. I told him it was spousal abuse to make my 8-month pregnant butt waddle after a disappearing child. I want my son to explore – not vanish. That is the worst feeling I ever encountered. My hubby says I should always keep him in the stroller, but isn’t that really a more restricting harness on wheels? Not to mention that he struggles in there and starts screaming.
This fight is getting pretty ugly at home and in the meantime, my kid keeps running off. So, who is right? Please say me because my husband is being such a pain about it.
Where’d He Go?
Dear Where’d He Go,
The room started out divided because Tony thinks parents can use harnesses to be lazy instead of teaching kids to listen and follow the rules. He started to change his tune though when we described the awful feeling you get when your kid runs off. In a perfect world, kids would follow the rules and stay by our sides and we would be able to give them our undivided attention. We live in an imperfect world though and sometimes our kids run off. It’s annoying and scary but ultimately it’s unsafe. If you feel that your child is endangering himself, then I think it’s ok to use a child harness occasionally. Furthermore, if your husband continues to gripe about it, let HIM do all the shopping!
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