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I’ve got a pretty weird problem on my hands. I’ve been dating a sweet guy for a few months now, but he’s fixated on me shaving my legs. He was married before we met & his wife cheated on him. Evidently, she would lie & say she was going out for a Girl’s Night then go meet her boyfriend. Well, now I can’t even MENTION Girl’s Night, but he also gets really weird when I shave my legs. I guess she would only shave her legs before going to meet this guy, so now he kind of equates smooth legs with cheating.
He has stopped short of asking me to stop shaving my legs altogether, but I think that’s what he wants. I don’t really WANT to stop shaving my legs but will do it if it will help him get through this. I really like this guy and want to make him happy but they whole thing makes me feel pretty weird. I mean, this IS pretty weird right?
So what do I do? Can’t WAIT to hear what you guys have to say about THIS ONE!
Harry and the Hendersons
Dear Harry and the Hendersons,
We think you should continue shaving your legs and talk to him about facing his pain. His problem is ultimately NOT whether or not you shave your legs. He is struggling with a trust issue and he is the only one who can face it. Talk to him honestly and if he thinks he can’t deal with it on his own, suggest a therapist. One caller experienced the same problem with her ex and it led to extreme control issues on his part. It would be wise to proceed with caution but for now, give him the benefit of the doubt and lead with honesty and love. Hopefully he will heal over time and you can build happy memories together.
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