She Mail: Single Woman Can’t Get A Second Date
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I’ve had a string of good first dates lately that end with NO PHONE CALLS. I don’t really know what’s going on or if I’m doing something wrong, but I’ve gone out with 3 different guys that I met online, had a lovely time only to NEVER hear from them again. My friends say that maybe I should show a little more skin on these dates or try to act sexier but I don’t feel like that’s right. Something is wrong though because I’m 34 years old & I haven’t had a serious boyfriend since my ‘20’s.
I don’t want to just give up but this is really starting to hurt my feelings.
Hope you guys can help me out!
Second Date Syndrome
Dear Second Date Syndrome,
I’ve always thought that, when you’ve tried something repeatedly and it’s not working, it’s a good time to stop & reset. Take 6 months to step away from the dating sites and focus instead on YOU instead. Are there any hobbies or activities you’d like to try? Feel like taking a fun girl trip? Try focusing on something other than dating for a while and have some fun. It seems like the best things we ever find are when we aren’t LOOKING anyhow!
One listener suggested using MeetUp.com for some fun, no-pressure activities. One of the groups mentioned is a group called DaterHaters. There are 3 DaterHater groups around North Texas: one in Fort Worth, one in Grapevine, and one for the Arlington/Mansfield area. Another caller suggested checking the photo that you’re using on the dating websites. Make sure that the shot you’re using is as close to the real thing as possible. The caller said that he went on dates with many women who didn’t look anything like their photos and that proved to be a problem.
Hope that helps!
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