She Mail: Handling A Creepy Coworker Who Won’t Go Away
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I have a little work -related issue. It’s a co-worker who is trying to get too close. He is an over-texter – particularly after business hours when he’s been drinking. During one of these over-text sessions he kind of admitted he has a crush on me. This would be flattering, but
A. I’m in the middle of a divorce and…
B. HE’S MARRIED, with a kid no less. Yuck. Also…
C. On a scale of 1 to 10 my attraction to this guy is at a negative 9
I thought I was clear that I did NOT feel the same about him, but now he has developed a daily routine of plopping down in my office for an hour long visit. We are in the same department& have to work together, but these visits are NEVER about work. I try to change to subject back to work but he never takes the hint. Today I ran out of the room saying that I HAD to use the bathroom. When I got back to my office he was STILL there. Sigh.
It’s very nice to be admired & I hate to sound like a total B here, but I’m just not interested. AT ALL. How do I politely get him to stop camping out in my office?
Thank you for your help,
Dear Admired Unwillingly,
We thought you would appreciate some actual professional advice, so we checked with our own HR department to see what they thought. They said you should make it clear to this man that you can’t get your work done with him hanging out in your office all the time. Tell him that you’re falling behind and need to refocus, so he gets 5 minutes a day to discuss work stuff and that’s it. After he leaves, shut your office door (if you can). You should also stop responding to his texts if they aren’t work related. If you feel awkward about shutting him out entirely, try only responding to only one personal text a day. Hopefully he will get the message and start backing off. If he DOESN’T then you should definitely contact your HR department. Hope that helps!
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