She Mail: Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working Out
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I’m 26 years old & my boyfriend is 25. We have been in a long distance relationship for over 5 years now. He’s living with his mom in Houston while he goes back to school and I live here in DFW with my parents. He has already changed his career path once so he’s going back to school again, hopefully this fall! Do you think he is ready to move in together? How can I tell him I am ready to move our relationship closer? It’s hard not seeing each other very much. We really only see each other maybe 10 times a year, whenever we can find time away from work to travel. The rest is just over the phone. Please help,
We were surprisingly all in agreement on this one. We feel that it is definitely time to take the next step, but there seems to be commitment issues on multiple levels. He is still living with his parents AND is struggling with his future plans. This long-distance relationship might be PERFECT for him! You need to decide if this guy is worth taking a chance. If you feel like he is the real deal, you could move to Houston yourself and give the relationship a year. I would get my own place first though, in case things don’t go as planned. Don’t rush into it though. Start discussing it with him first and gauge his response. If he isn’t 100% onboard with the idea, make a clean break and move on. If he likes the idea though, I would move into it slowly. Maybe even get a place of your own here in town before moving to Houston. The main thing you need to decide is if YOU are willing to take a chance on this person and if he would be good for YOUR life. GOOD LUCK!
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