She Mail: Husband’s Ex-Wife Wants To Tag Along On Family Vacation
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Boy I’ve got a predicament on my hands. My husband and I are taking a big trip to Destin in Florida soon and I have been so excited about it. Well, we just found out that his grown son will be in Destin the same week and he wanted all of us to get together so my husband could see his grandkids. That’s nice, but then my husband dropped the real bomb on me: His son will also be traveling with HIS Mom, who is my husband’s EX. I’m not sure just how MUCH time we’re expected to spend with them on this trip, but my romantic trip with my husband just turned into a family vacation with his ex-wife tagging along. I don’t like this AT ALL, but I don’t know what to do. My husband is upset about it too.
Do you guys have any advice?
Mrs. Deflated in Destin
Dear Mrs. Deflated in Destin,
So sorry about this tough situation you’re in. We had essentially 2 responses to your problem. Some people said NO WAY should that woman be allowed to go on your vacation. Your husband’s son or your husband should stand up and put a stop to it. I however, think that a little more diplomacy is in order. You love your husband and know that he doesn’t want to be in this situation either, so try to make it easier for everyone. Plan a few family dinners and gatherings where EVERYONE is included, and then claim the rest of the time for you and your husband alone. Make it clear that you want time for EVERYONE but that your time alone is also very important.
Remember that just because she is your husband’s Ex, she doesn’t have to be a monster. One caller said that she had become life-long friends with her husband’s ex-wife, so try to think along those terms and hope for the best.
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