SheMail: Couple Debate Over Nursing Mother At Party
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I don’t really need advice, but I’d like you to settle a debate between my husband and I.
We were at a fancy party this past Saturday night & were surprised because someone brought their new baby along. This was a get-dressed-up kind of fancy Saturday night party so it was already kind of weird, but she & her husband ended up sitting at our table for dinner.
Well, she decided to nurse in the middle of dinner, right at the table!
I tried to act like nothing was going on, but other people at the table were really offended. One older couple actually got up & LEFT. Even my husband was offended and he complained about it the whole way home.
I tried to defend her a little because I think a woman should be able to nurse wherever & whenever she needs to, but my husband just wasn’t hearing it. It worries me because I plan to nurse when WE have kids & now I’m worried he won’t be supportive.
So who is right here? My husband or the woman nursing at the table?
I’m afraid I have to side with BOTH of you in this case, Marci.
I nursed both of my daughters for extended periods of time (my first for a full year), so I have been forced to whip-it-out in all kinds of random places. I believe that women should be able to nurse whenever and wherever they need to.
HOWEVER, popping-one-out at the dinner table at a fancy function is a little too much, even for me. It would nice if nursing didn’t freak people out anymore, but the glimpse of a breast DOES still cause a mild panic. For your own sake and of those around you, consider leaving the table. Plus, there is ALWAYS a place to sneak off to (I kept magazines in my car to read while I nursed in the backseat!).
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